मुलांमधील असूया व होमिओपॅथिक उपचार / Jealousy in Children and Homoeopathic Treatment

Jealousy in Children and Homoeopathic Treatment

Be it between siblings and the resulting behavior problems are common in many children these days. It has been found that 20 to 40% of children under three years of age have this problem.

The nature of parents, parenting methods, home environment, children’s temperament, their growth stages are responsible for this problem in their own way.

After the birth of the first child, the baby is showered with immeasurable Caressing, Fondling, Cockering & Pampering  by all the families in the house. But after the birth of the second baby, suddenly all these churches turn their attention to the new baby. And the sibling, who has been at the center of the house for so long, does not tolerate a new partner suddenly coming into his coterie and pampering.

Suddenly he is expected to understand. The older sibling is still younger. At this age, his ability to think rationally is not yet developed. Therefore, even if the baby does soo-soo (urine), it works; But if we do soo-soo (urine)  in the mattress, our parents get angry, why ? He does not understand this.

A child who takes his parents away from him then gets very angry. But at this young age he neither understands his feelings nor can express them properly. Then the younger sibling starts expressing anger or jealousy towards the younger sibling by hitting, pushing, pinching, making him cry, bothering him or breaking his toys.

The older child starts trying to get everyone’s attention by deliberately insisting and acting aggressively or negatively. But as this Mental condition of these children is not noticed by the parents, they start trying to correct this elder sibling by getting angry, punishing them. But their constant anger reinforces the older sibling’s belief that ‘parents definitely don’t love us’ and the cycle continues.

Another important thing is that parents should carefully avoid comparing their two children with each other. But often the parents say, ‘Look how he studies even though he is young, how come you don’t UNDERSTAND SIMPLE THINGS !’ Thus compares.

Sometimes grandparents seem to differentiate between their daughter’s children and their son’s children.

In some homes, the son is still cherished as the “light of the clan”. It is overemphasized and discriminated against girls by removing them, neglecting their education, deliberately making them do housework.

Many times there is a difference in temperament, personality, caste even between two siblings. A sibling who is smart in studies, has a good personality, has good looks or fair complexion can obviously have more family affection.

Relatives, neighbors-priests also praise him. But the second sibling with normal ability, normal personality or dark complexion can suffer a lot. Thoughts like ‘what is wrong with our color being black’ or ‘No one approaches me as I am less fortunate’ can sometimes give these children a feeling of intense depression.

Sometimes a boy on a girl’s back is over-loved.

Sometimes a mother prefers the daughter who looks and acts like her among her own two daughters.

In some houses, the father is over-loved & Pampering with the daughter, so the son is reprimanded in the same way.

When a sibling is estranged for one or two myriad reasons, it can leave deep and perhaps never-healing scars. Some people suffer from Mental illness in Adulthood because of these Childhood problems.

Due to such problems in childhood, Psychological vulnerability increases a lot in children. This can lead to problems such as Nail Biting, Finger Sucking, Bed Wetting, Lack of Attention in school, sleep or hunger complaints or Aggression, Destructiveness, Aggression.

Every child’s Temperament, Personality, Intelligence, Abilities can be very different. It is very important for parents to accept this wholeheartedly. We can make children safe in Mind only if we can accept them as they are, with their flaws, and love them unconditionally.

But even with all the care, sometimes the children become fierce towards each other. At that time, without angering the children, calmly and lovingly communicated with the children.

If children are introduced to their feelings without feeling guilty about having them, children can also express their feelings appropriately.

Homoeopathy also has many effective Medicines for Emotional problems in children.

These Medicines are very helpful if they are used properly only under the advice of experts.