If children are to be described in one word, the word “Active Energy”(“सळसळती ऊर्जा “) will be enough, if we want to go further and give an analogy, we can also say “Storm”. (” वादळ “)
Before parents know it, kids will be climbing up and sitting on a high place, pressing a buttons. The lives of parents come to the fore while taking care of such children.
Why do children behave like this especially in Childhood ? The answer can be said in one word “Curiosity”. The world around is very strange for children and these children are eager to experience and explore it.
There isn’t exactly a “panic break” (भीतीचा ब्रेक) during this period. Another reason is that “Experimentation” makes children fickle. They want to experience the joy of trying something new.
As children realize that they are a separate individual. Thus the ‘ I ‘ in them was awake. By doing different experiments, the experiments to identify one’s own abilities begin. Be it “Chintoo” who is bothering the aunties in the neighborhood or “Pinky” who is in the business of rearing ants.
It is important to try and enjoy it !!
There is no yardstick to judge how children are behaving. The behavior of the children of a family was tolerated in their home as “children used to behave like this”. Generally, young children listen to their parents. are sensible.
They are aware that their parents have set rules for behavior in their home and they know that these rules must be followed. Children are Mischievous by nature and tend to see how much Rebelliousness in their behavior is tolerated.
Such behavior becomes a problem when the child causes physical harm to anyone in the household or transgresses the bounds of decency. If it starts to behave like this and if it starts to repeat itself, it is necessary to find the reason for it.
A common problem in children’s behavior is, “Anger towards siblings”! If you feel that your sibling is growing angry, you can find the reason for that behavior.
The underlying reason behind this behavior may be jealousy or the family is going through some stress (Parental Quarrel, Family member’s illness, Mutual tension etc.) or parents have unrealistic expectations from the children, addressing the root causes will automatically stop the child’s strange behavior.
Be it between siblings and the resulting behavior problems are common in many children these days.
Parents’ nature, Parenting methods, Home environment, Children’s nature, their growth stages play a role in this problem.
After the birth of the first child, everyone in the family showered the baby with immense praise. But after the birth of the second baby, suddenly the march of all these churches turns to the new baby. The elder sibling, who has been at the center of the house for so long, can’t bear the sudden arrival of a new partner in his coda. It is precisely at this time that there are important stages of physical and mental growth.
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Parents expect the child to learn to control his natural actions. But during all these changes he needs the Emotional support of his parents and it is precisely at this time that parents are involved in their new baby. At such a time, “Even if you are so big as a donkey, you wet the mattress or you are not the baby’s Sister ? Then you don’t want to cry while going to school “ comes to the share of the elder sibling. Suddenly understanding is expected from them but the elder sibling is still young ! Their ability to think rationally is not yet developed.
If the baby does soo soo in the toilet, then why would parents get angry if we do soo soo in the mattress ? He doesn’t understand this. Because of this, they start thinking that their parents don’t love them, that they don’t want them because of the new baby. Then the child who takes his parents away from him gets very angry. Feelings are understood but cannot be expressed. Then breaking their toys, anger or jealousy towards siblings starts to be expressed. The older child starts trying to divert everyone’s attention by acting aggressively or negatively.
Most of the children’s behavior shows an outburst of anger sometime or the other. In the case of some, this invention of anger is found to go to extremes. The child starts screaming, kicking, or throwing objects that come within reach.
Outbursts are a variable state of Mental and Emotional growth in children, starting at age 18 months, a year, or at some point in time. Failure to meet your expectations is behind this behavior. Children have desires but have not yet acquired the verbal skills to express those feelings appropriately. At the same time, the children are properly inculcated by the parents, these are the rules of what to do and what not to do, the child does not have the depth to understand that there is some logic behind these rules.
If a bag or a basket full of toys is rolled, then why not roll a box full of grains? It is beyond the understanding of this “dandagat”(दांडगटाला). If the parents do not understand this limit of children’s tolerance, then the children’s behavior goes beyond the parents’ tolerance. Ego is hurt and the child is punished. But the reason for the punishment is not understood by the child. The “fire” of dissatisfaction is lit in the Mind of the child. Confusion erupts.
On the other hand, parents offer the lure of “Food, New Toys” to change their child’s behavior. The child has found a way to get the parents’ attention by “Punishing and Luring”. Rather, it is better to completely ignore such a shock of anger.
When the child realizes that his anger or aggressive behavior has no effect on the parents, the child understands the futility of his behavior. After the temper tantrum subsides, the parent’s behavior tells us that we are still loving the child as usual. In that way, the child wants to understand and the child also needs to know that we do not like this behavior of the child.
“We like you but we don’t like your behavior”, it is important to convey the message to the child.
Some children hold their breath after being angry or upset. The child’s face first becomes red, then white flashes or the face turns bluish. This type starts as early as six months of age, and usually lasts from one and a half to two years. Rarely can last up to three to three and a half years.
For a moment the child loses consciousness. The child’s arms and legs may become limp or the body may become stiff. Onlookers, parents get scared. But there is no harm to the child by holding the breath like this. The child should be examined by a doctor. An unconscious child should not be abandoned. But it is common to experience that the child starts breathing again as soon as something special is done.
Sometimes children are found hitting others. It is natural for children under the age of two to feel resentful, aggressive and angry when their toys are taken by another child.
It is necessary to lay the foundation of all manners and culture that such display of ownership rights of children is not right and it is necessary to teach the child through the behavior of the parents.
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If children are seen kicking or biting, the child should be told not to do so in a harsh voice.
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Take the child to a separate room and express your displeasure in clear words.
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Even if the child does not understand the language or the correct meaning of the word, the child understands the content of the displeasure.
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Even if a small baby or another baby in the house is a matter of displeasure, parents need to take notice of it.
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If only one toy is desired by both, it is desirable to direct the children’s attention to a third object.
Head banging or rolling from one side to the other is seen in a child between six months and one and a half years old. This happens if the child is tired or sleepless. It is natural to feel anxious, but it is not harmful.
Usually these types stop when the child is four years old. When something goes against the Mind, children start banging their heads to get their attention. and even at a young age, children have an idea of how much head banging will hurt them, so children don’t get hurt.
If the child starts to tilt his head to one side, it is necessary to check whether there is something in the ear.
It’s natural to feel jealous of younger siblings, but when it turns into hitting the child or starting to act like a child yourself, or physically harming them, treatment is needed.
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Take care before the second baby arrives.
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Don’t pick up the baby first every time.
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An older child should not feel that a small baby is pampered too much.
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Take note of the goodness of children. They should be praised for that.
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Sometimes children can be physically harmed due to Massiveness.
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Others suffer because of our industry.
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Child has no idea that how much he trebled to Mother.
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This leads to problems such as accidents, destruction of property, unacceptable behavior in society, misbehavior meeting the disciplinary framework of elders.
This Restlessness is goes on in all young children.
But some of them bounce like a non-stop spring.
Sitting in one place in the school classroom is a punishment for them.
It is impossible to remain silent.
In fact, they expects strongly other children should play with him and chatter with him.
Kindergarten teachers run out of patience, but these children’s entrepreneurship lives on.
Another characteristic is that these ” Tough kids “(कडकडी मुलं) can say no to anything. Therefore, their stubbornness is also extreme.
According to a child researcher, “Children are also full of energy. Managing such children is a war technique.”
There are some rules for that.
1) Stop pronouncing stubborn, fickle, stubborn adjectives in front of children. Otherwise the child really justifies your adjectives.
2) Before showing a new thing, a new place, if the information about it is sat nearby, it is not done out of curiosity, the industry decreases.
3) In particular, what will be seen in the eyes of the children already in the house ? With this in mind, securing a home with simple and easy measures can automatically provide relief.
4) Children’s energy is freed by playing a lot in the open air, shouting happily.
A teacher in New Zealand has put it well, “In any kindergarten there is a See-Saw game of war and peace going on. If children’s energy is not channeled through constructive activity, destructive action is encouraged. On the contrary, this energy is channeled from an early age into interactions with each other, friendship with nature.” If you invest in it, children will flourish.”
According to the science of Homoeopathic Medicine, the Homoeopathic natural Medicine selected after studying the personality of such children greatly reduces the severity of these problems.
By improving the Child’s personality, it is possible to prevent future complaints.