School Phobia in Children and Homoeopathy
It was nine thirty (9.30 a.m.) in the morning. As school time approached, Mahesh’s Anxiety was increasing. “Mom, I feel nauseous. I have a Headache. I don’t want to go to School.” He said in a sobbing voice.
Do you know how your health deteriorates every day at school time ? If you stay at home, you are in good spirits ? This is how you don’t go to school today. Mother got angry and hit.
After the school started in June, Mahesh would have gone to school for just three to four days. Later, vomiting, stomach ache, headache became a daily routine during school hours. Parents first explained, then got angry and even punished. But it was of no use.
Mahesh’s problem was School Phobia.
All of us are Afraid of going to School at one time or another. But sometimes Children are Afraid to go to School away from their parents for certain reasons. When the time to go to school approaches, their fears reach the limit. Then the physical complaints start. Headache, stomach ache, dizziness, vomiting-diarrhea etc….
Then if the child is allowed to stay at home, after a while all these symptoms disappear. This problem is called School Phobia.
Many times this problem starts suddenly. A child suddenly starts to Panic while going to school or going to a new school, a new class after many days after an illness or holiday. If you ask the children, they give many reasons for this.
For example,
- They are afraid of New teachers
- Fear of going to the toilet in the dark
- or being bullied by kids in the classroom etc……
- But most of the time these reasons are superficial, temporary in nature.
The real reason behind the fear of school is hidden deep in the Minds of Children.
Many factors such as –
- Children’s temperament,
- Their emotional imbalance,
- Tension in the relationship between children and parents, &
- The environment at home can be at the root of this problem.
There are many reasons for emotional imbalance in children.
- Unrealistic expectations from parents,
- Extreme discipline,
- Domestic strife,
- Argument, stress,
- Such things make children very vulnerable in Mind.
Also, sometimes children find it difficult to adapt to the changes in their environment.
For example –
- Leaving the mother and going to a new foster home,
- Birth of new siblings in the house,
- Sometimes illness of parents,
- Death of a loved one,
- Children become Emotionally disturbed due to many reasons.
- A kind of fear and worry starts to arise in their Minds.
In such cases, alienation from parents makes children even more vulnerable. Children are afraid to go to School. Sometimes they don’t agree to leave their Mother. Due to stress on their Mind then physical complaints like vomiting and diarrhea start.
But parents have no idea about this state of Mind of Children. Many parents try to forcefully send their Children to School, thinking that their child is pretending to skip School. Sometimes they try to take the Children to School by explaining, showing lure and sometimes by punishing and beating them.
But with such pressure from the parents, the child becomes more Afraid. In that case, Children need love, support and understanding them the most !
Without ignoring such a problem, it is necessary to find the real cause of Children’s Fear and solve it under the guidance of Homoeopathic experts. In such cases, children and parents also need counselling.
Some children are also Emotionally vulnerable or Lonely and feel neglected. Therefore, even to get the attention of their parents, they become irritable and stubborn. Some do not want to leave their mother.
Some children are very sensitive, affectionate, touchy natured. They are quick to cry. They need someone’s company constantly. Some children have stunted Physical or Mental growth.
It is a new place, new people go to this place. They avoid going among others because they make fun of us. Some children are very stubborn and tolerant. Due to domestic disputes, unstable environment, they get scared. They are afraid of getting lost in a crowd, in an unfamiliar place. In this way children with many personalities are found.
In Homoeopathy, by studying the nature of children, their Environment, Stress, there are many good Medicines on this problem and they are very effective. Of course, it is advisable to take these Medicines only from experts.